What if you could CONNECT DEEPLY IN AN INSTANT even after years of hurt and frustration?
I've been married 25 years, and we can relate, if you've tried everything under the sun to feel closer and have a great sexual connection.
Maybe you've sought books, podcasts, and maybe even a therapist, a coach, or all of the above. After all that, you may wonder if your connection is just "beyond help" and you're stuck between living as a pair of dysfunctional roommates and breaking up your family.
Those are two lousy choices when what you really want is a loving, passionate marriage. It’s frustrating, right?
Finally, there's something simple and practical that works with real couples: THE CONNECTION CODES.
What if you could CONNECT DEEPLY IN AN INSTANT even after years of hurt and frustration?
I've been married 25 years, and we can relate, if you've tried everything under the sun to feel closer and have a great sexual connection.
Maybe you've sought books, podcasts, and maybe even a therapist, a coach, or all of the above. After all that, you may wonder if your connection is just "beyond help" and you're stuck between living as a pair of dysfunctional roommates and breaking up your family.
Those are two lousy choices when what you really want is a loving, passionate marriage. It’s frustrating, right?
Finally, there's something simple and practical that works with real couples: THE CONNECTION CODES.
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They made breakthroughs in just a few days
"I always have been a person that likes to learn and try new things and see what works and what doesn't. Your approach and your understanding and the way you have been there and supporting us has been working great. I feel really listened to and valued and I appreciate it.
It was amazing how things changed for the best in just a short time. I wonder why we never tried it before!”
-- COACHING CLIENT
Disconnection is so painful...
WHEN People arrive here, THEY TELL ME ABOUT...
✦ The Touch vs. Closeness Debate: One partner would feel more like opening up emotionally if you were having more sex. The other would be more interested in sex if you had more emotional connection. Which comes first? Often there's a stalemate with frustratingly little closeness OR sex.
✦ It's tough to talk about: You aren't connecting erotically, but your communication about it goes nowhere, so you can't convey what it would take to make things better.
✦ Deprivation for one, inundation for the other: The higher desire partner feels like a humiliated, rejected beggar, and the lower-desire partner feels pressured, objectified, guilty, and/or not-listened-to about what they need, to access more desire.
✦ Feeling Disconnected: You love each other, but there’s this big ol’ gap between you. Emotionally. Sexually. It’s like you’ve become roommates, and neither of you signed up for that.
✦ Communication Breakdown: Every time you try to talk about the important stuff—sex, kids, money, the future—it turns into a fight, or worse: nothing at all.
✦ You’ve Tried to DIY: So many conversations. So many attempts to “fix” it. But no matter what you do, the same issues pop up. Sound familiar?
IMAGINE INSTEAD:
✦ You wake up each morning feeling close to your partner.
✦ You have a simple way to share your feelings and needs with your partner... and they have the skill to help you feel heard.
✦ You effectively navigate the day's challenges together, knowing you can communicate openly and solve problems as a team.
✦When conflicts arise, you resolve them quickly. Kindly, with respect.
✦ You both feel more desire for each other than you have in years and find your sexual connection with ease.
ALL OF THIS IS POSSIBLE FOR YOU
And the best part? Most couples start seeing changes after the first session, and build solid skills in just 90 days.
Either way, the results will last.
IMAGINE INSTEAD:
✦ You wake up each morning feeling close to your partner.
✦ You have a simple way to share your feelings and needs with your partner... and they have the skill to help you feel heard.
✦ You effectively navigate the day's challenges together, knowing you can communicate openly and solve problems as a team.
✦When conflicts arise, you resolve them quickly. Kindly, with respect.
✦ You both feel more desire for each other than you have in years and find your sexual connection with ease.
ALL OF THIS IS
POSSIBLE FOR YOU
And the best part? Most couples start seeing changes after the first session, and build solid skills in just 90 days.
And you're building results that will last a lifetime.
How it works
THE CONNECTION CODES LAYS BARE THE FUNDAMENTAL, CORE, MOST BASIC HUMAN NEED...
THEN SHOWS US HOW TO MEET THAT NEED FOR ONE ANOTHER
How this works:
THE CONNECTION CODES LAYS BARE THE FUNDAMENTAL, CORE, MOST BASIC HUMAN NEED...
THEN SHOWS US HOW TO MEET THAT NEED FOR ONE ANOTHER
01
THE BUILDING BLOCKS OF CONNECTION
You'll start with a foundational education in what it really takes to connect deeply, and where almost every one of us has gotten mis-educated in how to be close and peaceful with one another.
You'll learn what to say and how.
How to listen and help your partner feel heard.
And how to ask for what you want - or offer your support - without either of you getting hurt.
02
LEARN TO NAVIGATE EVERY TOPIC AS A TEAM
Unlike many therapies where individuals work through their issues separately, or couples' work where your helper is a "referee" for your disputes, I'll empower you to be a healing presence for one another and learn to work things through as a TEAM.
You'll learn to sit with one another's emotions (and your own) without the painful storms your emotions might've unleashed in the past.
As you witness your partner in their in-the-moment flow of emotion, and experience being held by them the same way, you can both experience new levels of empathy, understanding, closeness, and turn-on.
03
GROW FAST, SUPPORTED BY AN ACTION-FOCUSED
90-DAY CONTAINER
Traditional couples' counseling might stretch out over months or even years, with no accountability for action. Here, both spouses build a new skillset in the next 90 days. You’ll notice a big difference right away as you discover the tools. Then we'll put in the "reps" to get you lasting change over the course of the 12 week sprint.
You'll implement just a few simple tools daily. These new skills will replace the tension, fights, silence, and frustration that crop up around your "hot button" topics.
04
A CIRCLE OF OTHER POWERFUL COUPLES
Our culture as a whole tends to cast relationship challenges and sexuality as taboo topics, so we never really see "behind the curtain" of others' relationships. As a result, we can ALL feel "abnormal" in our challenges and unsupported in our efforts to grow and thrive.
THAT ENDS HERE. We learn best the skills and disciplines we share with others. So we'll come together to practice, get inspired, and learn alongside (well-trained!) peers on the same journey to lively love.
05
12-STEP RECOVERY, SURRENDER, WILLINGNESS
Addiction and compulsion drive people to a level of desperation that paradoxically has the power to unlock huge growth. I experience the ongoing miracles of recovery in my own journey with food, alcohol, money, and betrayal trauma.
My skill at deploying the 12 steps allows even non-addict clients to benefit from this potent system for releasing resentment, embracing life on life's terms, and creating transformation beyond what we could have anticipated.
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I have studied Kriya Yoga, brought to the United States by Paramahansa Yogananda in the 1920s. He authored Autobiography of a Yogi and helped translate Sutra-based and
Bhagavad Gita-based meditation and breathwork practices for non-monastic spiritual seekers.
Observing the mind is the foundation of reducing reactivity in our relationships. I teach my clients mindfulness practices that dovetail with any other religious or spiritual perspective.
Your Next Step:
BOOK A FREE CONSULTATIOn CALL
Let’s talk.
I’ll listen to where you are in your relationship and help you figure out whether the 90-day Connection Codes Couples' Sprint is right for you. I also offer private couples', individual, family, and team coaching for integrating this skillset, if that's more appropriate.
The consultation is totally free. No strings attached, just an honest conversation to see if we’re a good fit. The investment starts at just $125 per week.
My experience,
your transformation
Michele Lisenbury Christensen, MA
Hi, I'm Michele! I’m a Certified Connection Codes Coach and sex & relationship mentor.
From my personal pain and triumphs and 27 years of professional practice, I've learned what relationships actually need to thrive. I help you stop settling for lukewarm love and start experiencing the deep, lasting connection you truly desire.
My experience,
your transformation
Michele Christensen, MA
Hi, I'm Michele! I’m a Certified Connection Codes coach, also certified in Relational Life Therapy and a sex & relationship mentor for couples and families.
From my personal pain and triumphs and 27 years of professional practice, I've learned what relationships actually need to thrive.
I help you stop settling for lukewarm love and start experiencing the deep, lasting connection you truly desire.
MAYBE YOU'RE WONDERING
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
What is the Connection Codes?
brief explanation with big ideas
(via connectioncodes.co. Read more about the Connection Codes here.)
How long does this process take?
I strongly recommend that all couples start with a 2-day intensive so we can build the traction that we need to see those big changes. If that's not possible, I may recommend starting with a couple of sessions a week to get us started. I am happy to help you decide which option is right for you!
Depending on your desires and schedule, you can start see results in your relationship in anywhere from 2 days to 8-12 weeks of coaching with me. You will then continue to build on your results either on your own or with my support. Watch your communication and intimacy grow over the next 6 months.
Relational Life Therapy Intensive
I know it sounds too good to be true, but we can make 2-3 months' worth of progress in just a weekend. We will meet 3 times over 2-3 days, for 90 minutes to 2 hours each time.
We work in a very specific focused way, where you allow me to guide the conversation to really get at the root of your struggle and pinpoint its source, then create a new pattern in each of you that builds the relationship you really want.
Offered virtually or in-person
Relational Life Therapy Coaching
Whether as follow up to an intensive or as a regular occurrence, we can spread our sessions out over several weeks or months, giving you and your partner more time to digest and practice each step of the journey so you can break out of the cycle of conflict and create lasting change in your marriage & sex life.
Offered virtually or in-person
Relational Life Therapy Bootcamp
In this 2-day "bootcamp," I'll teach you everything you wish you knew about how relationships ACTUALLY grow from honeymoon phase to lifelong love and how to show up for BOTH yourself and your partner every day without losing touch with either. I host these 2-day workshops in the juiciest, most fun locations I can. Drop me a line if there's somewhere you'd love to spend 2 days with me and then the rest of the week with your beloved (and your kids, if you like! We'll arrange for kids' activities for the workshop times if there's need for that)! Maui? My hometown of Anchorage? NYC? Let's do this!
Offered in-person only
How do I get started?
Set up a consult call and tell me where you are now: It’s 100% free to meet with me and discuss whether this experience is right for you.
SETTLING IS NOT AN OPTION HERE
The bottom line is this:
If you love your partner, but something has to change, you've come to the right place.
Ignoring the problems in the name of not wanting to "rock the boat" only allows them fester.
The simmering resentments, the broken communication, the emotional distance, and the sexual loneliness can slowly eat away at what brought you two together in the first place.
If you're ready to stop settling for so-so connection when you know you could have so much more, let's get started.
You can both feel more ease, closeness, pleasure, and joy.
It is a daily joy to witness and contribute to
THE KINDS OF RESULTS MY CLIENTS CREATE
with support, evidence-based tools, and open-hearted practice. You can hear it from them:
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